You need the right tools to be successful at anything in life. Your sex life is no exception.
Whether you're looking to have fun on your own or with a partner, the right sex toys can take your orgasms to the next level.
Whether you're a bona fide sex toy aficionado or new to the world of sexual devices, we've got you.
Ahead, is the ultimate guide to vibrators, dildos, penis rings, strap-ons, and more. Trust us, the hunt for the perfect toy is far less daunting than it seems.
What are sex toys, and why use them?
Sex toys (also known as adult toys) are objects used to give you pleasure by stimulating your erogenous zones (sensitive areas of the body). While there are loads of sex toys out there, the most common ones are vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, penis rings, and strap-ons.
People use sex toys for a variety of reasons, with the primary reason being sexual arousal. They are specifically designed to target erogenous zones, which heighten pleasure. For many people, especially those with a vagina, using sex toys might be the easiest way to achieve an orgasm.
These sex toys also help you experiment in the bedroom, whether with a partner or alone, allowing you to learn more about your own body. You may even end up discovering new ways to feel sexual satisfaction!
Adult toys also make it possible for those with disorders and/ or disabilities to feel sexual pleasure, which might otherwise not be possible for them. For instance, people on certain medications, such as antidepressants or blood pressure meds, who find it difficult to get aroused may benefit from sex toys. Or, people with limited mobility may be able to recreate certain sexual positions with toys that may not be feasible otherwise.
Different types of sex toys
From toys that stimulate you either internally or externally, to the ones that do both (yes, really!), there’s no shortage of sex toys in the market. Here’s your guide to the most common types of adult toys. Read on and pick the best to experiment with that suits your needs.
Vibrating bullets
An affordable introduction to sex toys, a vibrating bullet is the most discreet and straightforward gadget there is. Perfect for solo masturbation (even when you’re on your period), this tiny tool is used to stimulate the clitoris for mind-blowing orgasms.
It can also be used with a partner during intercourse or oral sex, though its small size can make it difficult to handle while engaging with your partner. This dual-bullet vibrator is a great choice for female couples.
If you really want your vibrator to pack a punch, you can check out a magic wand vibrator. If it's internal stimulation you're looking for, a G-spot or anal vibrator will do the trick. There are also wearable, remote-controlled vibrators for when you want to indulge in some kinky fun by giving your partner control over your toy.
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Suction toys
Love getting some good head? Then suction toys might be your jam. These toys use suction to mimic the sensation of receiving oral sex.
They typically have a “mouth” that goes over your clitoris or penis (yes, male suction toys exist, too!) Place it there, turn it on, and you're good to go. The toy will use air pressure to increase the blood flow to your genitals, making you feel realllly good.
You can use suction toys with a partner for some extra fun by combining oral with penetration, too. Use the toy to stimulate your clitoris or penis while your partner penetrates you!
Dildos
A dildo is a sex toy designed for penetration. Typically engineered with a tapered tip, dildos come in a variety of styles: Some resemble a penis, others have a curve to hit your G-spot, and others come with tactile features like ridged shafts for extra stimulation.
Dildos are perfect for masturbation, male anal stimulation, and girl-on-girl action. For female couples, a dual-ended dildo penetrates both partners at the same time or works for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration.
The rabbit
If you've talked to any sex-toy enthusiast, they've probably mentioned the rabbit at one point or another. A combination of a dildo and a vibrator, the shaft of a rabbit moves for intense internal stimulation, while the attached clitoral stimulator enhances pleasure externally by stimulating your bean.
You can choose from a variety of battery-powdered shafts that thrust or rotate, which make it great for solo play.
Strap-ons
While strap-ons are popular among same-sex female couples, they can also be used for role reversal in heterosexual couples. A strap-on consists of a dildo attached to a harness that you strap onto your waist. It is used in place of a penis and works by thrusting your hips into your partner.
When shopping, keep in mind that while many realistic dildos are strap-on compatible, your favorite one may not fit every harness.
Penis rings
Just as the name suggests, a penis ring (most commonly known as a cock ring) slips around the base of a penis shaft. Penis rings limit blood flow to and from the shaft, which causes slight swelling. This instantly increases the length and girth of your partner’s penis, as well as their stamina. Translation: more intense penetration for you.
Since a penis ring squeezes the base of the shaft, it increases sensitivity for the wearer as well. To get even more intense orgasms, opt for a vibrating penis ring that simultaneously provides clitoral stimulation. This way, you get double the fun!
Cock rings are also great for those who have trouble maintaining an erection. Make sure your partner doesn’t wear them for more than 20-30 minutes, though, as these toys can damage the blood vessels.
Butt plugs
Unlike other toys meant for the bedroom, butt plugs are designed to be worn for extended periods of time, whether you're running errands or on a date. They come with tapered tips and a flared base to ensure that the toy doesn't get lost in your rectum.
Butt plugs can be used in preparation for anal sex, for extended pleasure, or for added more intense orgasms during masturbation or sex with a partner. There's even a super techy vibrating version that pairs with an app to control yours or a partner's sensations.
Bondage toys
If you're looking to get kinky, there are a variety of BDSM toys that you can shop for. These include handcuffs, harnesses, blindfolds, ankle restraints, ball gags, sex swings, and more.
Don't forget to set a safe word before you venture into any kink-play, though. And, no matter what you do, do NOT get your BDSM education from Fifty Shades of Grey! Instead, check out resources such as “Watts the Safeword” or the “Off the Cuffs” podcast for some trustworthy and inclusive BDSM education.
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How to choose the right sex toy for you
Before you dive into experimenting with a sex toy, it’s important to pick the right one. In addition to making you feel good, your sex toys need to be body-safe, too, since you’ll be getting up-close-and-personal with them.
Here are the main things to consider when shopping for a sex toy:
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Material
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Function
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Features
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Budget
Let’s look at each of them in detail below.
Material
Sex toys come in all types of materials, from glass and metal to silicone and jelly. The general rule of thumb is to always get one that's made of non-porous materials.
Porous materials retain bacteria, no matter how thoroughly you wash them, increasing your chances of contracting a bacterial infection the next time you use them. They also contain phthalates, a harmful chemical that disrupts your hormones, leaching microplastics into your body. So, stay away from jelly, rubber, latex, ABS plastic, and leather sex toys.
We recommend medical-grade silicone as an all-rounder and the best choice for first-timers, as it’s durable, easy to clean, and doesn’t hold on to any bacteria. If you want something a little more sturdy and long-lasting, stainless steel and glass are great options, too. They also make for very good toys for temperature play!
Function
What type of stimulation are you looking for? Internal, external, or a mix of both? And which erogenous zones do you want your toy to target? Based on your answers to these questions, you need to choose a toy that will give you the types of sensations you’re looking for.
For instance, if you have a vulva and only want clitoral stimulation, a vibrator or an air-suction toy would be ideal. For G-spot stimulation, a rabbit or a dildo might do the trick. If you want anal stimulation, you might go for butt plugs, anal dildos, or anal beads, while penis rings or even a bullet vibe would be great for penile stimulation.
Partnered vs. solo play
Another important consideration is whether you want a toy for solo masturbation, or something that you can enjoy with a partner. If it’s the latter, you may also want to look at remote-controlled toys. If bondage is on the menu, check out adult toys such as handcuffs, gags, or blindfolds, too.
Features
Modern sex toys come with various features like noise level, weight, vibration intensity, and waterproof abilities. If you live with other people and you don’t want them to know when you’re getting it on, get a quiet sex toy.
Like getting yourself off in the shower? Make sure your toy is waterproof. If you want your toy to join you in your travels, look for something small and discreet (like LOLA’s mini pocket vibrator). Also, consider whether you want a toy that offers a greater range of mobility and is convenient to hold and use for long periods of time.
When picking a vibrator, check its “intensity levels.” If you like intense sensations, choose a vibrator with multiple intensities.
Rechargeable vs. battery operated
This is an important feature that you should consider before picking your first sex toy. A battery-powered sex toy will require frequent battery changes, which is why we recommend rechargeable ones. They don’t require batteries to lug around and the charge typically lasts for a few hours—enough for an entire play session.
Finally, pick a beginner toy that you like the look of! Toys come in all types of fun colors and designs, so you can choose something that you vibe with and are excited to use.
Budget
You’ll find sex toys at all prices—from $30 or less to upwards of $300. While getting lost in the mindset of “more expensive equals better quality,” that's not necessarily true. Instead, set a reasonable budget and find a toy that checks all the other boxes within that price point.
It’s totally okay to start off with something simple and affordable before you experiment with fancier, more expensive toys.
Sex toy safety tips you should know
Safe sex is the best type of sex there is. And, yes, this applies to sex toys, too. In addition to using body-safe, non-porous adult toys, here are some other safety tips you should know.
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Use lots of lube. Sex toys cause friction, which can lead to pain and discomfort around your sensitive bits. To prevent this, use a generous amount of lube to make slipping and sliding a little easier.
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Use a condom. If you’re using sex toys with your partner, use a condom over the sex toy to prevent STIs.
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Clean it before and after every wash. Using an unclean sex toy is a big no-no as they can store bacteria, dirt, and other types of debris, leading to infections the next time you use it. So, once you’re done, immediately wash it with a gentle cleanser and warm water or a soapy washcloth. Pat it dry with a microfiber cloth after.
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Store it properly. Once the toy is completely dry, store it in a separate lint-free pouch. If you have multiple toys, store each one separately!
Not only will your toys last longer when you follow the above tips, but you’ll also be free from any sex toy-related infections.
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FAQs
What is the safest type of sex toy to buy?
The safest type of sex toy to buy is one made from non-porous materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel. Make sure the package says “medical grade” on it, which ensures a high standard of quality and safety.
Can you use sex toys with a partner?
Yes, you can absolutely use sex toys with a partner! Be sure to take the necessary precautions to prevent the spread of STIs and bacterial infections by using a condom and washing the toy properly after each use.
If you’re wondering whether it’s safe to share the same sex toy with multiple partners (either in the same session or in different sessions), the answer is yes—but only if you use a non-porous toy with a condom and wash the toys thoroughly before and after.
How do you pick the best first sex toy?
Think of the type of stimulation you desire and pick a no-frills sex toy that's designed for it. Whether you have a vulva or a penis, you can never go wrong with a bullet vibrator or a dildo for your first time.
How to clean your sex toys properly?
You can clean your sex toys with warm water and mild soap or a cleanser. If your toy is waterproof, a soapy washcloth will also do. Dry it thoroughly before storing it to prevent bacteria and mold from growing on it due to the damp environment.